Skip to content

A Fancy Way Of Saying That Abused Wives Were Asking For It

June 30, 2008

“…women desire to have their own way instead of submitting to their husbands because of sin. And husbands on their parts, because they’re sinners, now respond to that threat to their authority either by being abusive, which is of course one of the ways men can respond when their authority is challenged…”

Apparently when the womenfolk are all uppity, there are two ways a man can respond – “through ruling that is abusive and oppressive–and of course we all know the horrors of that and the ugliness of that”…. or by becoming completely passive, saying, “‘OK dear,’ ‘Whatever you say dear,’ ‘Fine dear'” Apparently there is no in between.

Now, I don’t think the speaker in question was advocating spousal abuse, exactly, but there sure does seem to be an undertone of “she was asking for it” in there, doesn’t there? With a side of “men will be men.” Argh.

Just read it.

2 Comments leave one →
  1. holly permalink
    June 30, 2008 12:17 pm

    I didn’t realize it was possible for me to be that utterly offended…

  2. June 30, 2008 3:17 pm

    I’m not a practicing Christian but totally respect the beauty and ethical potential of Christianity and other religious traditions based fundamentally in the value of love; it therefore makes me deeply sad to read crazies like Ware claiming Biblical authority for their own hateful and fearful nonsense. Self-proclaimed “Christians” speaking such unloving nastiness also make it harder for non-crazy non-Christians to avoid a feeling of bigotry toward Christians, who start sounding nutballs as a group. Yet other, non-crazy Christian attitudes seem far more arguably Biblical to me (based on my readings in the Bible–not exhaustive, I admit–and of scholarship on religion/history/etc.). So, on a cheerier note:
    http://www.cbeinternational.org/new/about/biblical_equality.shtml
    http://www.users.csbsju.edu/~eknuth/xpxx/
    http://www.cta-usa.org/reprint6-96/fox.html

    I also can’t helping thinking of my devoutly Catholic grandmother, whose strong belief in women’s complete equality with men, positive attitudes toward sex, and total lack of ill-will or even discomfort toward various forms of sexuality have grown out of her belief in a loving God, not despite her faith. Her sixty-year marriage-of-equals with my grandfather taught me how to be a happy, loving, beloved feminist wife and working mother. So there, ‘submit to your husband’ crazies!

    (Apologies for the rant …)

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: