Friday “Fun” Topic – Talk About Your Gynecological Care
Over at Feministing, there’s a good discussion going in response to the question, “What have your experiences been with gynecological care?” There are a lot of bad experiences (comments on vagina size, inappropriate lectures about personal beliefs) being shared, and some good ones as well (like those nice folks who warm the speculum).
I don’t want to limit this to ob/gyns, because I have seen a mix of providers for my annual pelvic-pap-whathaveyou, but what has been your experience? I’ll start:
My 1st: Mom dragged me to her ob/gyn as a teenager. This guy was about 500 years old. The exam was fine, but a little lacking in explanation of the purpose of each step. We had a little talk about sex and contraception and whatnot. So far, so good. After it was over, though, I found out that when he left the room for me to redress, he went and talked to my mom about our sex conversation. He hadn’t told me that would happen, or that it did happen – I only found out because my mom brought up with me some of the things I had said to him. Obviously, my trust was completely violated and I knew I could never be straightforward with him. I never went back.
2nd: CNM in college student health. We had a running joke that any time you went to student health, even if it was an earache or something completely unrelated, she would talk about whether you could have an STD. It sounds silly, but I bet she got more sexually active college kids to get tested than most other providers.
3rd: Female ob/gyn in a small town. Options were limited, and I had heard good things. Very good at the exam and explaining what was going on. My only slightly weird experience was the time my appointment happened to fall on Halloween. The clinic staff were wearing costumes. Seriously. That is a pelvic you either never forget or completely block out.
4th, and current: Women’s health NP in a nurse/midwifery clinic. Awesome. No bad experiences.
Okay, your turn.🙂